Why We're Writing This Blog....

We didn’t realize that our relationship was special until more recent years. According to CNN, 45% of black women never get married. I got married at 24. Not only that, but Julius and I met at Howard University when I was 17. 7 ½ years later we got married (in 2009) without ever breaking up. We both graduated on time from Howard University, and now we are both receiving advanced degrees at Howard University School of Law and Howard University School of Business. We’ve learned through the years that this just does not happen, especially among black couples.

We had good reason to believe that our relationship was anything but special. We like each other (most of the time) and have fun together. Our relationship has not been perfect, and the ones closest to us know that. We both have strong personalities (and I mean real strong). We started out as “opposites”, but found out we were more alike than we thought.

In the beginning, we were the fun couple, then we were the serious couple, and then somewhere along the way, we became the example of Black Love for people closest to us. We didn’t want the title, didn’t ask for it, and for sure didn't think we deserved it. However, we learned in our marriage counseling (which is another topic for another time) that regardless of what we want, marriage and love is a ministry and we should take it seriously.

We don’t profess to know everything about what makes a good relationship, or what the right way is to get a man or woman. BUT, we stayed together without any major hiccups at Howard University from freshman through senior year and beyond (which quite frankly is a difficult thing to do), so instead of telling you what to do, we’ll just share with you, what we did, and maybe it will help someone along the way.

Madame